This photo from my family album was taken in the early 1940s of my sister Becky, 11 years older, holding me.
National Siblings Day is celebrated on April 10th. When you were kids maybe you squabbled over toys, parental attention, and who got the biggest slice of cake! A lot of us have been there and done that. But come April 10th,since you’ve grown up, you can safely let your brothers and sisters really know what you think of them! NO, not like that! ~ Just let them know if they’ve been there for you in times of trouble or heartbreak, how much you appreciate it. Let them know you love (Yes, I said LOVE) them and you’re glad they’re part of your life.
There are times when we have difficulties with our brothers or sisters, and rifts in family ties can be hard to heal. If you’ve tried and not succeeded, I’m sorry and I understand. But for most of us, as we grow up, we come to know our siblings better and realize they’re not so different from us after all and we may even find things in common. If you can bring about a peaceful resolution between you and sibling(s) you may have disagreed with, I advise you to do so. We never know how long we or they are going to be around, and once they’re gone, you can no longer say, “I’m sorry,” or “I love you.”
“Sisters is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship.” ~ Margaret Mead
The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us
Pictured below, left to right, is my brother Calvin Wilson, whom we called C.W., my biological father Melvin, my mother Esther Majors Brown with me in her arms, and my sister Becky. This photo is vintage 1940s. My oldest brother Thomas William was not at home at the time of this photo. There were seven children born to my mother and father, but only four of us survived. The order of birth went as such: Thomas William was born in 1923, next was Calvin Wilson in 1925. Rebecca Jean was next in 1928, then in 1932 a set of twins, boy and girl, Freddie and Nettie, died not long after birth. In 1934 Wallace Ray was born, but lived less than a year, dying from hydrocephalus. The last child to be born was yours truly, Nancy Carol in 1939.
My siblings are all gone now, I’m the last one. I miss them all, but probably miss my sister the most since we were the closest after I grew up and figured out she loved me. That was long in coming because in my pre-school years she helped to raise me, and it was easy to be mad at her for making me do what was right. Of course, she could have taken the easy way out and just let me do whatever I wanted, but she did the right thing…by making me do the right thing. When I grew up I was grateful to her for all she did for me, but more than that, I loved her dearly. She was not only of my blood, but she was a confidant and friend. I miss her so very much.
“My sister taught me everything I need to know, and she was only in 6th grade at the time.” ~ Linda Sunshine
A bit of fun here about jokes and laughter and how it can help you to learn about each other, and how to stick together against the world.
How To Celebrate With Your Siblings
Plan a party or get together or visit them.
There are various ways to honor your brothers and sisters, both living and dead. If you are fortunate enough to live close by your siblings, it’s very simple to plan a small party honoring them. Send out the invitations in plenty of time, letting them know they will be honored guests at the party. Then be sure to set up items that will take their memories back; old photos of all of you, games you used to play, the music of the times you shared. Make some of the foods you used to love when you were all together and set them out for all to enjoy. But more than anything else, let them know you love them and appreciate them. You can do this as simply as giving them a hug if telling them is a little too demonstrative for you or them.
This is a photo of my oldest brother, Thomas William Brown, taken at Camp Claiborne, Louisiana, sometime during the 1940s.
You’ll Be In My Heart ~ Phil Collins
For my brothers and my sisters
Honor Them If They’re No Longer With You
If your siblings are no longer with you, there are various ways to honor them. I choose to write about them. There are lots of other ways to celebrate. A yard garden memorial or a tree to remember them works well. Have a small plaque made honoring them and a small ceremony installing the plaque. If possible, make sure you have invited their children, grandchildren, etc. who may still be living. Make it an all-day affair, reminiscing with them about things their father or mother did when they were children. If you don’t have a yard or garden to place a memorial, some of the items below may help you to have a spot honoring brothers or sisters.
I Thought of You with Love Today Ceramic Memorial Picture Frame – Beautiful Tribute to the Loss of a Loved One – Traditional Design Goes with Any Decor – Great As a Keepsake Plaque – Bereavement Gift – Sympathy – Condolence – in Loving Memory – Forever in Our Hearts Is Printed Above the Heart Shaped Photo Opening
“There is no time like the old time, when you and I were young!” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes